Harbor seal at Seal beach, La Jolla, California. © Ralph Pace |
I am delighted to welcome Laura Marjorie Miller to the blog. Laura writes about travel, Yoga, magic, myth, fairy
tales, photography, marine conservation, and other soulful subjects. She
is a regular columnist at elephantjournal.com, contributing editor at Be You Media, and public-affairs writer at UMass Amherst, and has a feature forthcoming in Yankee magazine. Her work has appeared at Tripping, GotSaga, and Dive News Network, in the Boston Globe and Parabola. She is based in Massachusetts, where she lives with a cat named Huck.
In this thoughtful piece, Laura considers the tragic beauty of the selkie legends, and wonders if it's time to find a new way of retelling and interpreting them. The wonderfully moody photographs appear by kind permission of Ralph Pace, http://www.ralphpacephotography.com/ and the magical illustrations are courtesy of Scottish artist Kate Leiper www.kateleiper.co.uk. Many thanks to both.
My favorite place in all of Boston is
outside the harbor seal habitat at the New England Aquarium. The seals, shining
silver-grey, their thick oily coats spattered with inky speckles, glide back
and forth by the glass. Sometimes they barrel-roll to soar on their backs, navel
slits to the sky, flippers folded like wings. Sometimes they bob vertically in
the water like corks, serene expressions on their faces.
Every time I’m in Boston, no matter where
in town I am, I’m aware of their presence. I am pulled to them, the shredded
iron filings of me to the steady strong magnet of them. One doesn’t even have
to pay admission to the aquarium to watch the seals, but can view them from
outside, so once I park my car, I race there along the pavement of the harbor
wharf. It is all I can do in public not to break into sobs at their beauty. I
stand by the glass, weeping silently with longing, undried tears coating my
cheeks with a rime of salt water, but also smiling with unaccountable joy. I
want to be with them. I am a river running to their ocean.
I love seals, and because I am a woman who
loves seals, and loves mythology and folktales, merfolk and sea songs, I love
selkies. I love them not for the tragic nature of their stories but because
they are both human and seal.
Part of the utter core of the traditional selkie
story is that the selkie, in the end, leaves. So naturally, my boyfriend,
knowing I love both selkies and stories, started to become alarmed, thinking
that I would leave him the same way. I told him our story was different,
because I choose to be with him.
And that was when I realized that we all need
a new selkie story, that our myths can guide us but not lock us: that there can
be a new, variant myth, not to replace the old, but to give a sense of
possibility, both for the relationships between lovers, and also humans and
animals: to shine in the world in its newness.
The old selkie story has a basic,
archetypal framework. Details swirl around and modify these fundamental components:
a fisherman sees a mysterious woman emerge from a sealskin, at night on a
beach, perhaps to dance with her kin under the moonlight or perhaps in her own
private reverie. He falls in love with the sight and idea of her, and knowing
by lore that she is a selkie, a seal woman, he knows that if her pelt is in his
possession then she is under his rule. Without her skin she cannot return to
the sea. So he steals and stashes her skin.
When she realizes her skin is missing she
is distraught. He then reveals himself to her. She follows him home to be his
wife. She apparently has no choice.
Whether the woman is attracted to the
fisherman or not, we are never told. He begets children on her, and they live a
pleasant enough existence, but there is always something melancholy about her,
an absence, a way of gazing yearningly towards the sea. One day, one of her
children will discover something like an oilskin raincoat in a trunk in the
attic, or stuffed into a notch in the eaves. Her son or daughter will ask her
what it is. Her eyes will go wild with joy, and she will snatch her skin from
him, clutch it to her breast, and say hasty farewells as she races to the
beach. She cannot run fast enough for herself.
A Selkie Story © Kate Leiper 2009 |
Sometimes afterwards the selkie will keep
watch on her family from the water, following their boats in the form of a seal:
generations of descendants with webbed phalanges and distant expressions.
Sometimes she is gone forever from the story, her husband pining away in regret.
But what if there were a new selkie story?
One in which she chooses the man? One in which the man courts her, makes
himself loveable to her, that she wants to come to him; that he loves her for
being what she is, part seal, and knowing that, loves the wild part of her? And
when she needs to, she runs to the ocean, pulls her skin back around her, swims
with her family. She comes to back to land. Back and forth, as seals do anyway.
While she is gone, he does man things.
The story has drama, just not the
inevitability of failure. The crux of the new
story is its inner quarrel, the bit of resistance in the man, her
uncertainty with him, and the back-and-forthing within them that gives way to purer
love. Such would be a new possibility, and a new way.
The old selkie story is both about the
relationship between lovers, and our relationship to the wild. In the way that
sometimes humans in our weakness try to control our loved ones, through
manipulation, through emotional blackmail, sometimes even through abuse and
coercion, because we fear that their independence means they will leave and
betray us, or that their self-sovereignty implies faithlessness, in the same
way we have been doing things wrong in regards to animals, and so have trapped
ourselves: keeping animals in tanks, in enclosures, jars, bowls, corrals. We
seldom do this out of purposeful cruelty, or even sheer profitable callousness,
but so much oftener out of misguided love. So since the story is made of love,
it is malleable, it can be reoriented, rewritten, redeemed.
What we love in wild animals is their wild
nature, their otherness, but for some reason that is the first thing we want to
take away from them. In our infancy, both historical and personal, we wanted to
contain it. I don’t think we always took animals from distant lands and kept
them in iron enclosures with concrete floors solely to display our dominance
over the exotic and oriental: maybe that was part of it, but not all. Knowing
what I know of humans, I suspect it is because we wanted to marvel at their
beauty, and have it close by, without fully understanding that separating them
from their environment would eventually kill them. A child who puts a mantis in
a jam jar does not do that out of an impulse to dominate: she does it because
she loves it, she wants to keep it, to behold its angular alien elegance under
the holes she has punched in the jar lid. She does not know otherwise; her
curiosity is ignorant of consequences, and she wants to hold the moment of that
joy forever. She does not want it to be over.
We fear the moment the creature leaves us.
We fear we will be left behind, that it will not choose us.
So instead of courting the selkie as a decent
man would, the fisherman traps her. He takes away her ability to choose him and
so his story ends tragically, because he stole her life. But if he had taken a
chance of not being chosen, of being patient, of allowing her to come and go, she
may actually have come to love him, and he would have continued to behold her
in her true nature, not in a diminished form.
A Selkie Story © Kate Leiper 2009 |
Compelling is bad magic no matter how it’s
done. Any savvy and sensitive magic-user knows that love-spells, with their
undertones of binding, come with a price: which is their success. Their success
is their curse. If you get what you think you want, you will never know whether
you are freely loved, whether that person would have chosen you if you had not
forced them. Forever, while you are with them, something gnaws at the underneath
of you, the wrongness of what you have done, taken their free will, stowed
their skin, and stolen a love that should have by rights been freely given.
Although in my life I seem to insist on learning things the hard way, this
sounds so utterly miserable for both parties that I have never even been
tempted to test it. I have heard enough tell of those who have.
Forcing something against its nature is the
dark side of tameness. If you have seen the children’s-book-like French movie Le Renard et l’Enfant, The Fox and the Child, you know that it
is very frank about wildness versus tameness, and arguably the opposite of the
fox-taming discussion in The Little
Prince. The little girl grows to befriend and love a wild fox, but over the
course of the movie you feel the dread of the inevitable drawing nearer, as the
girl’s affections start to close in on the fox, like the collar-like scarf she
puts around the fox’s neck. We sense what will happen when the protagonist
finally lures the fox in her house. But again, like the fisherman in the selkie
story, the girl does what she does out of yearning, out of wanting to keep.
In our culture, we used to collect nature
without an afterthought, to stick it in iron cages, to make its sensitive and
articulated paws walk on flat concrete surfaces, so that we could possess it.
Increasingly, to do this seems so absurd, as though we are suddenly shaking
ourselves awake: ‘What are we doing?’
In the last several years, and rising
faster and faster, there has been an upwelling of consciousness, through the
movies The Cove and Blackfish, about the high cost of
keeping marine mammals in captivity: in human casualties and injuries, but
also, quite spectacularly, awareness of the cost to the animals themselves: the trauma to their families,
emotionally bonded in ways that we can only begin to comprehend, so much that
their families are their very selves and taking someone out of the unit is like
ripping off a body part, an unspeakable psychic torture that goes on and on.
The collapse of their mighty bodies, visible in their
sagging fins, which in the wild are pirate-masts of their spirits. The torment of
imprisonment with strangers from other whale tribes who may bully and harass
them and they have no means of defense or escape. The mockery and misuse of
their might by being forced to do clown tricks. The acoustic torture of being
trapped in a featureless concrete pit, the walls of which bounce their
echolocation, meant to travel for hundreds of miles, back again and again into
their sensitive ears. The torment of endless loneliness and utter isolation,
unbearable except it offers no choice except to be borne.
Yet I sense that something is changing, and
rapidly so. I don’t know quite what caused it, this waking-up, this critical
mass, but something is indeed happening that can’t be denied anymore, or
stopped: human people have begun to care more about animals for the animals’ own sake, through recognition of their
intelligence and consciousness, and the implications of those. We are seeing
them increasingly as other peoples, their own and different tribes, with their
own perceptions and languages. A zoo mentality is giving way to a sanctuary
mentality, a rehabilitation mentality. There is an urgency and impatience now
for change. The change has already happened, and like the River Isen when the
Ents break its dam in The Lord of the
Rings, and release the river, consciousness comes rampaging through and
cannot be re-contained. What has seen cannot be unseen, and what is known
cannot be unknown.
All that remains is for reality to catch up
with it. Rachel Clark, in a stunning essay in Psychology Today calls Blackfish a bellwether
presaging “more than cetacean freedom. It foreshadows an urgent global uprising
to set things right everywhere. We are seeing an international frenzy for
justice.”
The selkie story calls out to us for
justice in territories of personal and natural concerns, in both cases about
power. And that is why we need a new story. One that explodes the old model of
grabbing and holding and stealing life and freedom just because one wants it.
One that celebrates the sovereignty of other beings, human or non-human. One
that is a ballad of justice.
Myths live in us, in response to us. So the
new selkie story is this: that we trust whom we love. That we try to win their
love so that through their own agency they choose to be with us. That we be
brave enough to gamble our fear of loss. That we accept that just because we
want to possess a being, no matter how badly we want to keep it, its right to
be sovereign over its own life will
always outweigh our desire to possess it. That freedom will always trump desire.
That we are responsible for protecting that freedom in one another, that it is
never ours to take, by any means.
We can write a new selkie story, to coexist
with the old. The old will continue to exist as an instruction manual of what
not to do, a sorrow, a caution. We can chant this new one by driftwood fires,
and the seals in their wildness can spyhop to listen, dark eyes regarding us
from the night ocean. Or they can ignore us altogether, as is their right. But
one thing is sure: except for their own private and tribal reasons, seals should
never be sorrowful.
As I am standing by the seal tank, a little
girl next to me says to her mother, ‘What are they dreaming about in there?’
Her mother answers, ‘I don’t know; what do you think?’ ‘I think they are
dreaming of being back in the ocean,’ the little girl says firmly.
The new selkie story is already being
written. The new world has already begun.
Postscript: A song for pinnipedal people,
seal and soul, clan and clade, Otariidae, Odobenidae, Phocidae, for all who
have an ancestor who grabbed her sealskin and ran toward the waves. For women
and men, and all other wild creatures:
Feist, ‘Sea Lion Woman’